My family has been in a constant state of change over the last six months. None of it has been easy, but all of it has been necessary and worth it. I naively thought that my family could move from the east coast to the Midwest, and adjust to living in the middle of nowhere on a 25 acre homestead with no real adjustments needing to be done.
I was committed to potentially giving my children the kind of life they deserved. A life free from the stresses that come from living in a bigger town. I wanted to give them a life of being able to run free on their own land, grow up around people who valued family, hard, honest work and who honored God. I wanted so much to give them the kind of life I had when I was a child.
Unfortunately, it is not the life I had given them through the last 21 years of me being a mother. We valued free time, personal space, material possessions, and conveniences and forgot about the things that truly mattered. So when we moved to the homestead, and we were faced with an entire new way of life, it was a change my family didn’t accept willingly.
Giving up would have been easy and more times than I’d like to admit, I’ve thought about doing just that. Because Friends, adjusting to change can be down right painful.
I recently asked on the Facebook Page (click here to join us) what my community members were struggling with as a wife and/or mother right now. All of us were struggling with the same thing…..Adjusting to a change in our lifestyle.
Change Produces Growth
But change produces growth, and many times Jesus will use change in our lives to help us grow as wives, mothers, and women in our community. He will also use change to help us grow closer to Him and reveal to us what our purpose in this life is.
Sometimes we find ourselves in very uncomfortable situations. We may find that our husband’s have picked up some extra hours at work or he’s taken a better paying job working the midnight shift, leaving most of the work on our shoulders. We may find that we are caring for our aging parents or we are adding a new baby to our families.
The one thing that I know for sure is we will never find ourselves in an uncomfortable situation and God won’t be there to help us through it. In fact, any time that I have ever found myself struggling to cope with change or some other situation where I was struggling, God was and is always there. We may not always see what He’s doing or feel Him there, but when it’s all over and we look back on that situation in our lives, His presence is plain as day.
I’m going to be very real with you, the five years leading up to my family moving to the homestead, my life was a disaster. I was in a very dark place. I had lost all of my friends, almost lost my marriage, and my family. I had no job, no direction and I was lost, broken and scared to death. I avoided God like the plague and was filled with so much bitterness and anger.
When we made the decision to move to the homestead, it was a huge act of faith and then when things began to go south and everything seemed to be working against us, I thought maybe we fell for temptation instead of God’s Will for our lives. I had a choice. I could have given up, packed everyone in the car and went back to town or I could truly seek God like He wanted me to and allow Him to take control and help me through an extremely uncomfortable situation.
One evening while I was sitting on my front porch, I asked God to just show me what He wanted me to do. I asked Him to make my dreams His dreams and if what I wanted in my life didn’t line up with His Will, for Him to change it and show me what direction to go in. Then, I got out of His way and I let Him get to work.
I found a church, surrounded myself with other believers, began spending a lot of time reading my Bible, doing personal Bible studies and praying.
It was difficult and painful, but it is exactly what I needed to do. Not only did God set my feet on the right path, He began shaping me, changing me and setting a new direction for my marriage, my family and my life.
No matter how big or small the change is that you are experiencing in your life, we are given a comforting promise.
Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be frightened, and do not be dismayed, for the Lord your God is with you wherever you go.” – Joshua 1:9
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